How To Outsmart Self-Sabotage And Celebrate The Path Of Personal Growth

Empowering Strategies To Support Your Journey

Our brains and belief systems are tricky creatures to manage at the best of times. But when opportunity knocks, the self-saboteur is enlisted to poop on their own parade as a self-protective measure to stay comfortable.

You know the diagram. The magic happens outside of your comfort zone.

The self-saboteur loves to stay warm and cosy in their comfort zones, because venturing out sometimes doesn’t feel joyful. In fact, it's the opposite of what makes someone good at manifesting.

Here are 3 quick tips to overcome self-sabotage:

• Change your self-talk.

• Learn to take emotional responsibility.

• Trust the journey.

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There are also some incredibly hilarious euphemisms when it comes to self-sabotage:

• Shooting yourself in the foot.

• Putting obstacles in your own path.

• Getting in your own way.

• Cutting off your nose to spite your face.

Self-sabotage can be a real hurdle for anyone who wants to achieve their goals or manifest their dreams. It is the act of sabotaging your own success by engaging in behaviors that ultimately hinder your progress. This can range from anything from procrastination to negative self-talk or engaging in activities that don't align with your desired outcome.

The good news is that self-sabotage is not a permanent state of being, and there are ways to outsmart it. But it requires bravery and getting real with yourself.

The first step is to identify your self-sabotaging behaviors. This can be confronting, but once you see your self-destructive patterns as they are unfolding, you can break the cycle.

For instance, you want to lose weight and start a new exercise plan on Monday. But before you know it, you're eating chips, staying up late, drinking booze, and on Monday, all of your motivation circuits are as fried as the delicious food you consumed.

We are creatures of comfort. And change will only happen when we get so totally fed up with the status quo that we create lasting change.

In fact, it’s when we change our energy that the world around us begins to shift.

In my latest book, BE THE LOVE, I confessed how I had a real issue with rage. I would lose my temper and off-load at my husband in what I now call a Cyclone Sarah moment. My self-saboteur was on active duty to end my marriage if my toxic behavioral patterns didn't change.

The only way to break a cycle like this is with a hearty dose of self-compassion.

I intended to set achievable goals at first. When you set unrealistic goals, you are setting yourself up for failure, which can lead to more self-sabotaging behaviors. On the other hand, when you set achievable goals, you are more likely to feel motivated and stay on track.

I had to be realistic and guide my energy and emotions in a whole new way. Since then, I've identified more triggers that hindered my progress, such as alcohol. I'd never had a problem with booze, but it didn't contribute to my well-being, so I stopped drinking (about 9 months ago now). This helped to support my intention of being a more loving human even when under pressure and stress.

Side note here: If you know me, have listened to my podcast, or seen me speak, then you know that I am a really gentle person. Cyclone Sarah is something you'd never guess is a monster I could morph into (like She-Hulk) in the past. But unprocessed emotions are often the main culprit behind self-sabotage. It's subtle, very nuanced, and a wonderful opportunity to audit the ways in which we either help our path to success or hinder it.

Remember, self-sabotage is a natural human behavior that we all experience to some degree. But the good news is that it's possible to outsmart it by identifying your self-destructive patterns, setting achievable goals, and practicing self-compassion. And as you work towards breaking the cycle of self-sabotage, remember to trust the journey and celebrate every small victory along the way. The journey towards success may not always be easy, but it's always worth it.

So, take the first step today and start creating the life you truly deserve.